chunkygoat
Member
Sorry in advance for the lengthy post. Any thoughts or opinions from the family here on the forums is respected and appreciated.
First off, I would like to state that I am almost at my breaking point. I am in need of a life changing event. I lost my job 3 years ago, and drowned myself in debt. Well for 3 months now, I have been working 7 days, 60 hours, a week. I have been desperately trying to get my head above water and I finally have succeeded.
It took me long years to recover from one honest, unknowing mistake. I sold my car in February, and have had just my Fz6 for transportation for 8 months. As much as i LOVE riding, 8 months of rain or shine riding has taken its toll. I finally caved and bought a car for the coming winter, so this is certainly stress off my shoulders. I also payed back approximately 70% of my debt. I project that in 4 more months, I will have my head completely above water again.
So now, to get myself out of debt, like I said, I have been working 7 days a week, at 60 hours+ a week. I literally never see my family, and have 0 friends. I don't ride anywhere but to work or home, and I don't talk to anybody but my sister on occasion. My family is mad at me for moving away from them, and my friends have taken my 60 hour work weeks as a message that I do not want to see them again. The fact is, I have zero time for myself, and its affecting all of my relationships, my sanity, and my happiness.
The things I used to do for fun aren't even a remote possibility anymore due to my honest fatigue levels, and complete lack of time. I've completely lost myself, and do not know how to enjoy life anymore - and I know exactly where this problem is rooting from....work.
I've determined that I need to start having fun again, and see very few solutions to my issue. Because my head is still submerged, I relentlessly work every day to recover, so I can hold a bank account in my name, and not have creditors hunting me.
I've boiled it down to 2 major life changes I can choose from that are right for me - both have ups and downs. I can either:
A: Pay my debt, go back to school, and try to allot more time for my friends and family.
B: Join the military, have them pay my debt, save money, learn a skill, and come back 4 years later with a fresh start.
Neither of which will be easy, A will be more difficult to push myself to do it, on my own, but will give me more freedom and time with family and friends. B will give me more money, a better looking resume, and to be honest, a more intense adventure (which I feel is the change I may be seeking), but less freedom and time for family.
All I know is I cannot sustain 7 day work weeks with no friends or family anymore. What are your guys' thoughts here? Any encouraging words before I make a decision? Can anybody think of any other options I may not have taken into consideration? Has anybody else experienced something similar?
You guys are the closest I have to friends, and are the only ones I can really talk with, so any input is appreciated.
Thank you for letting me tell my story, it is the first time it has come out in length. And thank you anybody who read and listened, even if you have nothing to say, thank you for listening.
Matt
First off, I would like to state that I am almost at my breaking point. I am in need of a life changing event. I lost my job 3 years ago, and drowned myself in debt. Well for 3 months now, I have been working 7 days, 60 hours, a week. I have been desperately trying to get my head above water and I finally have succeeded.
It took me long years to recover from one honest, unknowing mistake. I sold my car in February, and have had just my Fz6 for transportation for 8 months. As much as i LOVE riding, 8 months of rain or shine riding has taken its toll. I finally caved and bought a car for the coming winter, so this is certainly stress off my shoulders. I also payed back approximately 70% of my debt. I project that in 4 more months, I will have my head completely above water again.
So now, to get myself out of debt, like I said, I have been working 7 days a week, at 60 hours+ a week. I literally never see my family, and have 0 friends. I don't ride anywhere but to work or home, and I don't talk to anybody but my sister on occasion. My family is mad at me for moving away from them, and my friends have taken my 60 hour work weeks as a message that I do not want to see them again. The fact is, I have zero time for myself, and its affecting all of my relationships, my sanity, and my happiness.
The things I used to do for fun aren't even a remote possibility anymore due to my honest fatigue levels, and complete lack of time. I've completely lost myself, and do not know how to enjoy life anymore - and I know exactly where this problem is rooting from....work.
I've determined that I need to start having fun again, and see very few solutions to my issue. Because my head is still submerged, I relentlessly work every day to recover, so I can hold a bank account in my name, and not have creditors hunting me.
I've boiled it down to 2 major life changes I can choose from that are right for me - both have ups and downs. I can either:
A: Pay my debt, go back to school, and try to allot more time for my friends and family.
B: Join the military, have them pay my debt, save money, learn a skill, and come back 4 years later with a fresh start.
Neither of which will be easy, A will be more difficult to push myself to do it, on my own, but will give me more freedom and time with family and friends. B will give me more money, a better looking resume, and to be honest, a more intense adventure (which I feel is the change I may be seeking), but less freedom and time for family.
All I know is I cannot sustain 7 day work weeks with no friends or family anymore. What are your guys' thoughts here? Any encouraging words before I make a decision? Can anybody think of any other options I may not have taken into consideration? Has anybody else experienced something similar?
You guys are the closest I have to friends, and are the only ones I can really talk with, so any input is appreciated.
Thank you for letting me tell my story, it is the first time it has come out in length. And thank you anybody who read and listened, even if you have nothing to say, thank you for listening.
Matt